[33girl]

Heather, I completely agree with you that if she isn't getting what she wanted to get out of the sorority - be it social opportunities with fraternities, networking opportunities for jobs, good housing, or friendships with the women - she has every right to be disappointed and/or quit. UT dues are a very very big chunk of change to do something you're not happy with, even if you stick with it and end up having awesome alum experiences or something.

My venom comes from the fact that when a chapter is struggling or feels they are not on the same level as other groups on campus, the LAST thing they need is Debbie Downer who doesn't want to work to make it better (constructive criticism included), or is unhappy when everyone else in the chapter was happy until this person told them why they sucked. Women (and men) like this are cancers on their chapters, and like any other cancer they need to be removed if possible.

For all we know, the members of crunchies' sorority are happy that they don't have mixers every other night and stuff like that. Trust me, my chapter had quite a few women who were the queens of their HS and could have joined other more popular groups but they didn't want to...they had had enough drama to last a lifetime and they wanted to focus more on the women they felt comfy with rather than the women who would get them hooked up with the hottest fraternity guys.

Everyone has moments where they say "why the hell did I join this group?" but when they go past moments, you need to leave. I'm talking about actives too - if you hate going to events, if the only things you go to are required so you don't get fined, if you have nothing in common with your sisters, please leave. I don't care if you have one month till graduation, if you wake up every single day and say "I hate being an XYZ and am ashamed of my affiliation" you need to hit the bricks.