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I agree with Sugar and Spice. When you're shelling out thousands of dollars for ANY product, it's very foolish not to think about whether you're getting your money's worth. I'm sure everyone at GC agrees that you can make lots of wonderful lifelong friends at college without being Greek. So why pay? Because the organization offers a lot more than simple friendship, like a broad social network, lots of fun events, and extensive programming that enriches your college experience. And if it isn't doing that in this case -- well, maybe it's a poor investment. It's not only reasonable but wise to give that subject serious thought.
Furthermore, when all the people you knew and liked leave an organization, that creates a legitimate crisis whether the organization is a sorority, a sports team, a choir, or even (in my case) a law firm. It's not just succumbing to peer pressure if you think about leaving, too -- it's a reflection of the fact that personal relationships aren't transferable, and it's a real challenge to break into a new group of friends when yours disintegrates.
Due to the near-impossibility of getting a different bid next year, I do encourage Crunchies to stick it out a while longer to make sure that this isn't the place for her. It sounds like the chapter is under total, so she isn't really taking up a spot that could go to a COB new member. Try very hard to meet and get to know the sophomores and juniors. Are new members allowed to eat at the house? Do they have TV night or other low-key sisterhoods? Hang out there between classes and whenever else you can. Try and find an upperclassman you trust (maybe the woman who preffed you?) to talk about the loss of your pledge class friends. If after a few more weeks of truly giving 100% to this effort, you still feel the way you feel now, you'll know what to do.
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