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Originally posted by 33girl
OK, if we're going to bitch about things we hate at weddings, let me throw out my top one:
THE UNITY CANDLE.
I think the image of snuffing out your own individuality to become part of a couple is absolutely repulsive and has probably sent more than one couple to therapy.
OK, have at me. 
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I've only been to one wedding where there was a unity candle, but I don't remember any message of snuffing out your individuality - just "the two become one" image, where the bride and groom each use their candles to light the central one together. I don't remember if they extinguished the side candles after lighting the central one.
If the message really is one of snuffing out your individuality now that you're half of a couple, well, *shudder*. When you get married, you are half of a couple - but you're still you. Your own individuality and personality don't go away just because you now have a ring on your finger.