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As someone who went to The University of Texas, I can honestly say that those in the top tier group, don't realize that there is anyone below them, much less care about making fun of them. So, out of all the groups, it's probably the ones that compete with your chapter for NM's that say crappy things. Of course their competing for many of the same girls so a lot of it's bitter grapes.
As for the frats there are like a zillion of them and it changes from year to year, who's hot and who's not. I don't think Beta is even on campus there anymore and they were one of the best groups when I was there. Things change.
Also, in a campus of 50,000 students, which for a lot of students is bigger than the town they grew up in, how many of them do you really think are looking down their nose at your? Most could care what greek letters some girl walking down the drag or through the six-pack is wearing. Most aren't going to know what group it is anyway.
Because of all these things, it seems that the problem is more that women that you liked in your new member class have depledged. Their decision is influencing yours. From your posts you have said that you haven't spoken/gotten to know many "older" sisters. I don't know if you mean seniors, women older than yourself or women that are already in the chapter. It is just as much your obligation to meet them as it is theirs to meet you. If you are attending chapter meetings, new member meetings, going to chapter dinners etc., unless you are staying only with your new member group and not mixing in with the "older" sisters, I don't understand how you can not be getting to know them.
From the chapters point of view, they know what you're thinking. They know if you're not coming around or decline invitations to go out with your sisters. They know if you aren't going to meetings etc. And they are wondering if you're going to quit. In a "smaller" chapter, things like this are much more apparent than in a" bigger" chapter. Just FYI - total at UT is 150 (unless they have changed it this year). I believe the "smallest" group is 100 and the "biggest" in the 200 range. So, small is not so small.
Utlimately, this is your decision, but make it for the right reasons. Don't have the money to pay? The sisters will understand. But if it's because you don't feel the sisterhood and haven't made an effort or because you are worried that you are in a "loser" sorority. Then leave. The chapter has enough going on without their own members buying into and/or perpetuating stereotypes about them.
I believe that every sister can make a difference in their chapter, but maybe you're just not up to doing that. Some members don't want to put a lot into their chapters, they just want to have a good time.
You just need to decide if you want to be a sister rather than just a member or if you don't want to be either.
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