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You know, crunchies, I get what you're saying. I'm not going to jump down your throat or anything, because I realize that to some people the social aspect is one of the most, if not the most, important reasons for joining a sorority. There's nothing wrong with that. But I really think you should give it a shot before you decide to depledge--and by that I mean really give it a chance by getting to know the members, trying to change your way of thinking so you don't view your sorority as "that" sorority, and just simply having fun with it.
As for what others have said about working to change your chapter's reputation...in all honesty, I don't know if you can change the reputation of your chapter, at least in a time span of only a couple years. My chapter was the smallest when I joined because it had just been recolonized, so a lot of rushees didn't even consider it and we didn't mix with the "top" fraternities. Five years later, we're still considered "middle-tier" at best even though we can compete with the top sororities on numbers, looks, grades, activities, etc. What I'm saying is that it can be a lot harder than it looks to change the campus' perception of a certain chapter, but that didn't make a damn bit of difference to me because I still had the time of my life. I had way more fun and social opportunities than I would've had otherwise. Being in a chapter that's not top-tier is not the end of the world. Sure, you might not have date parties with the "hot" fraternities, but I've found that it's usually the guys in the smaller fraternities who are nicest and treat you the best, and make you feel like they want to hang out with you as opposed to just gracing you with their oh-so-cool presence. Even after my chapter moved up, so to speak, I still preferred the fraternities that we'd mixed with in the beginning. And are you sure it's everybody who thinks your chapter is the "loser" sorority, or just the girls who've depledged?
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