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Originally posted by James
ok . . I read through the posts and I see two major popints of view.
1. You should stay in your current chapter regardless of its social power because friendship is the most important thing and that friendship should transcend whether you have a good time or not.
2. You are joining an organization that has a social function and that you should quit if its actually going to limit you or hurt you socially.
Oh and there are the fixer up people . . but thats barely worth considering unless you are the type of person that owns the entire Time Life home Improvement Series.
Here is my take.
You are joining a social organziation. Its an organization where its major purpose is create social opportunities for you.
And remember, all you Politically Correct optimists out there, not all chapters on a campus are created equal. And the chapter you pick can dramatically affect your college experience. Everything from how much you party, to how many guys you get to choose from for your love interests, to even how much community service you do.
So why join an organization that limits you socially over ones that provide more opportunities?
'Cause here is the big truth, you are going to make friends in either type of chapter.
So why not try for the chapter that gives the best options and make friends there?
If you have decent social skills you will always make friends whether you join a good chapter, bad chapter, or don't join at all.
So if the chapter is going to limit you socially even more than being an independant would, don't join.
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Word to all of James's post. All of you who are preaching about eternal sisterhood blah blah blah -- you can find that in or outside of a sorority. During my college career, the people I've developed (what will probably become) lifelong friendships with did not just come from my sorority. They came from other organizations I joined, the dorm I lived in -- hell, some of them aren't even in college.
What you have to look at is what sororities can offer your social life that those other friends can't. And the problem is that there are some schools where being in a "bottom tier" group isn't worth it to some people when they know they can find similar opportunities elsewhere. You have to ask yourself if it's really worth it to pay a thousand bucks a semester to have two mixers that aren't even that fun, to get judged for your choices by everyone around you, and to have people you don't even know assume you're fat even though you're a size 4. If you know you can make good friends/have eternal sisterhood blahblahblah elsewhere, why put yourself through that?