That's cool, PerroLoco. I can respect that. I guess the thing that confuses me is that I know that this DL thing isn't anything new in Black communities. I think what's happened is that a lot of gay black men like the brother who wrote the book (I forget his name) are reaching a level of comfort in discussing their sexuality openly, and that just brings the whole DL thing into the forefront.
Sisters need to take responsibility for their own sexual health. I'm not saying regard every brother with suspicion and negative energy, because that's counterproductive. But unless you're 100% certain that your man isn't sneaking around with you with another partner -- regardless of that partner's gender -- take steps to protect yourselves. Be open, but don't be a fool.
A brother who truly loved and respected a sister would respect that sister's request to suit up. Maybe I'm living in a dreamworld, but I think that if they can't get with you on that level, they don't deserve to get with you on any other level.
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