Okay, my 2 cents as someone who volunteers at divorce recovery seminars:
Currently, the divorce rate in the US is 48% for the first marriage, 83-85% (depending on your source) for someone previously married. Unfortunately, this is across the board - no significant change in religions, those who had counseling, those without children, age group, or any other demographic. It's really nasty.
At this rate, the guys you're going to find who HAVEN'T been married and are over, say, 30 years old are scary guys, or have had some major trauma. I can point you toward three guys who have been never married, seem really nice & normal, but are seriously disfunctional!
If you really
need to find someone who hasn't been married, isn't in the closet, and is normal, you almost have to go through one of the agencies (I know, icky). So, the better option is to see the WHY someone got divorced, how long ago, do they have children, what other financial arrangements have been made (college tuition, etc) and look at Mr. Maybe with those facts in mind. If you're into self help books,
The Savvy Couples' Guide To Marrying After 35 is great, no matter how old you are - it gives you a good look at dating someone with "a past".
Having been there myself, I realized that I didn't know
me well enough - I had married young enough that my identity was tied into being part of a couple. It's hard to break that cycle!! But once you do, you find yourself getting pickier, AND wiser.
Good luck!