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Ok, I'm going to chime in with my 2 cents. I realize most of these posts were made a long time ago but, I have to say that I am a little offended to hear people say that someone should have no right to cry on bid day. Maybe it's not the best thing to do, but everyone has their reasons.
I will fully admit that I was crying on bid day. Yes, I signed my bid card, with the one house that I went to pref night at. I knew I wanted to be greek, but I wasn't sure if this was the house for me. I was very confused and upset and not knowing whether to even go to bid day or not. I cried on the bus all the way to the house. And strangely enough, the other new member who was sitting next to me is now one of my best friends.
When I got to the house, the girl who had rushed me most of the week grabbed me and took me upstairs so that I didn't have to be around people, and we could talk openly, just the two of us. She made me feel so much better about the whole situation, and even though I still wasn't quite sure what I wanted to do, I was able to go and enjoy the rest of bid day and meet all of my new sisters.
In the end, I found out that I WAS where I was meant to be, and have never regretted it since.
So please, please, please don't say that a PNM has no right to be crying. Most of the time, all she needs is some understanding and someone to talk to who may have been in her shoes.
My advice if you have a PNM show up at your house on bid day in tears..... Have her "bid day buddy" (or whatever your chapter calls them) take her somewhere away from all the happy party time and just talk to her, and try to get her to open up about why she feels the way she does. You never know, that could make the difference between her staying or depledging.
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