|
There is no good break ups really.
Thats what sucks about them.
Being involved with someone you really like is quite a high. Its like doing adrug. If the feelings fade in intensity, like they do for most people, and lands you into the "comfort zone" of most relationships, you lose the high, but you suffer pain if you are deprived of that person.
Anyway, the recovery is very similar to escaping a negative addiction.
ITs a watiing situation. You know you won't die. You know you are going to hurt for a while, and you know you the pain will grow less over time.
Your mission is to totally avoid the person/addiction as well as take care of yourself.
Make sure you sleep at least 8 hours, drink plenty of water, eat regularly, and excercise.
Remove the person from your aim list, and screen all calls . . . I can hear you resisting . . but would you leave Crack in your kitchen if you were trying to quit?
And also make the conscious decision its over and act accordingly.
ITS OVER. NO CONTACT. Every time you have contact its like doing a line of cocaine . . it makes it really hard to quit and starts the whole recovery process over.
When I res your post about thinking about getting back together . . well thats not the way to get over someone . . thats like fantasizing about doing crack this weekend after telling all of us you quit.
Just say no to Crack.
If you talk to him at all in the first month or so . . you deserve pain.
|