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I have to second UKDaisy's senitment about it just not being the same when you try to be friends w/ an ex that was your best friend. It really just isn't the same. I tried that w/ my latest former, but really, I found the same thing she did: most of the time we just kept talking about things that happened or things we did when we were together and honestly, when I realized what was happening, I realized it wasn't worth it.
I know when my former & I broke up my friends were there for me, always whenever I wanted someone to talk to, but after awhile I realized I was repeating myself over and over and over again. What's the point? Even I got bored w/ it. I had to find other outlets. I wrote in my journal a lot, I got a puppy (that took a bunch of time!) and started teaching her tricks, I started working out.
For a long time I even distanced myself from our mutual friends b/c I knew it would be weird, ya know? I still talk to them & hang out sometimes, but even now (several months later) it still just seems weird. I spent a lot of time w/ new friends and people that I wish I had spent more time w/ when I was w/ the former.
Like someone else said, I think the best remedy is to just cut him off for awhile. Maybe in a couple of months things will be different and you can go back to being friends? Who knows. In the meantime though you need to take care of yourself and do things you want.
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