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Originally posted by ladypi
Ok Yall I have GOT to bring this back up. Remember from before how tacky it was for the mother to ask us all to give a 100 dollar gift to the shower??? Well because of this and all the above mentioned, I had decided th only spend 50 dollars on the wedding gift, which I think is perfectly reasonable since I am only one year out of college. Well I get an email from the bride's sister today. It says "I was wondering what ya'll thought about just giving [insert brides name] a big check since she's got everything else she needs and registered for. I also spoke with [insert another bridesmaid's name] about getting [insert grooms name]'s wedding party in on it, so hopefully we can give her and [groom] $1?00.00 on their wedding day. If everyone is cool with that, please mail me a 100.00 check and I will write one big check and get a card for all of us to sign at the rehersal dinner. Please have this to me BEFORE [bride]'s wedding [which it in 3 weeks] so I can write the check!"
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! I am so POed!!!! I mean. Now I feel forced into giving this money... which I don't have! I don't even want to go now because the mother and the sister are going to have it out for me if I don't do it. How tacky and uncouth is this? Goes to show you that money doesn't buy class doesn't it?
Please please tell me what I should do? I am kinda freaking out thinking I won't be able to pay bills next month. And my parents would give me the money but I shouldn't have to ask.
Ok, thanks for letting me vent!!!!!
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NOT give in!! Send the $50 that you planned, and say that's all you can afford.
What's the worst thing that can happen? That you'll get kicked out of the wedding party? ($400+ saved) That you won't be allowed to go to the wedding (another $500+ saved)? That they'll talk about you? Because keep this in mind: what if you decide to get married, and make her a bridesmaid? A married woman doesn't have over $1,000 to spend on someone else's big day! She may even be pregnant, and beg off!
This is blackmail, pure and simple. Rise above it!