The de-coupling of the marriage/family thinking isn't surprising either, sadly. That the surveyed women saw potential mates right off the top as possibly "controlling, or demanding" forces rather than potential uplifting, stable, life-mates may, sadly, reflect the truth of their environment (somewhat). If you have the means to roll out and find something better, you may. If not, you won't, and predictably stop looking, perhaps. [/b][/quote]
I don't find it surprising either... But from what I read in the article, I could understand why a woman would not want to marry anyone who was "controlling or demanding"--but have a baby with him? The sex is just not worth it that much to me... But may it is because I am beginning to become a old foggie...
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Advocating marriage as good socio-economic policy? Historically the U.S. govt. isn't clean enough to open its mouth on the subject, given what it's attempted to do the black family.
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That's why I was thinking all along!!! Great minds think alike!!!
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But we better watch that the breach of the two "black americas" (one functioning/thriving, and the other poor and bereft of hope) doesn't widen any further. Standing in this gap is where we -- churches, frats/sororities, community, HBCUs, extended families -- all come in.
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What I find interesting is that as much as some folks may distance themselves from the realities of the impoverished folk, we always have that one family member that is waaaayyyy out there all up in the midst of unbelievable destitution due to the "usual reasons"--crime, drugs, addiction, etc. Whereas, I find that many of my caucasian counterparts barely have any members living in that kind of circumstances... My question is why? Particularly what is that "we" are "visualizing" here? What is going on and what is about to happen--can we put a stop to it because it doesn't look good from my vantage point?