I agree with AlphaFrog. Be polite in your email. Inform her that you've already purchased your wedding gift .You choose not to participate, and to leave your name off of the card. Don't go into details about your budget. That's your business.You have to stand your ground ladypi. You're being reasonable and it's not worth it to go into debt.
This precious wedding has gone overboard. If the bride and groom have supposedly gotten everything from their registry, then everyone should be off the hook in chipping for the "big check" from the wedding party. It sounds like the family is having money issues if they have to hit up the wedding party. Unbelievable.
