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Originally posted by ladypi
Ok here's an addon to the original question....
I am a bridesmaid for an old friend in a few months. I earn a modest living as do most people just out of college. I have already spent 300 dollars on my dress, 100 on my shoes, was forced into 100 for the shower gift by the mother (I had planned to spend 50), 300 for my plane ticket, 150ish to rent a car for the weekend, in addition to a variety of other expenses like parking at the airport and putting my dog in the kennel.
So let's see
300
100
100
300
150
+??
= 950 dollars (almost one whole paycheck)
I know this all comes along with the honor of being asked to be a bridesmaid so don't bash me for that one.... but I just wasn't expecting at 300 dollar dress and 100 dollar shoes.
So my question... before I head into the poor house or have to give up my beautiful new car that I have worked so hard for...
What do you think is the appropriate amount for a bridesmaid to give?????
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Ok Yall I have GOT to bring this back up. Remember from before how tacky it was for the mother to ask us all to give a 100 dollar gift to the shower??? Well because of this and all the above mentioned, I had decided th only spend 50 dollars on the wedding gift, which I think is perfectly reasonable since I am only one year out of college. Well I get an email from the bride's sister today. It says "I was wondering what ya'll thought about just giving [insert brides name] a big check since she's got everything else she needs and registered for. I also spoke with [insert another bridesmaid's name] about getting [insert grooms name]'s wedding party in on it, so hopefully we can give her and [groom] $1?00.00 on their wedding day. If everyone is cool with that, please mail me a 100.00 check and I will write one big check and get a card for all of us to sign at the rehersal dinner. Please have this to me BEFORE [bride]'s wedding [which it in 3 weeks] so I can write the check!"
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! I am so POed!!!! I mean. Now I feel forced into giving this money... which I don't have! I don't even want to go now because the mother and the sister are going to have it out for me if I don't do it. How tacky and uncouth is this? Goes to show you that money doesn't buy class doesn't it?
Please please tell me what I should do? I am kinda freaking out thinking I won't be able to pay bills next month. And my parents would give me the money but I shouldn't have to ask.
Ok, thanks for letting me vent!!!!!