Awww.
I'm so sorry to hear that you had to drop. But I do have to echo what everyone else has said--I think it's time your mom realized you're growing up and a 9 p.m. curfew is a little ridiculous. I know that you and I probably grew up very differently, but my mom had a very tough time letting me go when I went to college too and that's what I'm reading into your posts, even though the surface issues are that your mom is concerned about you and she's acting in your best interests. I think you made the right decision about dropping the sorority in light of your situation, but if you don't listen to anything else I say, please remember this--you're not just missing out on the sorority. I'm afraid you're going to miss out on a lot of the awesome opportunities associated with college if you don't manage to break away just a little bit. I hear you when you say your family is close and you want to preserve that; my family is that way, too. But I have been living on my own for a while now and I am still very close with my family. What it comes down to is that you need to do what you feel is best for you and no one else can tell you what that is, but at the same time, I just don't want to see anyone foregoing a big part of their college experience and then regretting it later. I almost did, but I am grateful that I learned that lesson in time.