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Originally posted by trojangal
What a bummer that this had to happen. Is there any way that your mom could be more reasonable? I do think that 9 p.m. is set more to high school students, rather than college. What would she do if you had to take a lab class in math or science or computers that went until 9:30? Or had to take a class that met twice a week from 7-9 p.m. Granted, this might be a stretch, but I think now is the time for you two to really sit down and discuss, not just for the sorority but also for other t hings..such as dating as well.
Good luck, hon...
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I'm not saying that she is giving a 9 pm curfew for EVERYTHING. If its class, she's fine with that, but she doesn't like that (for the sorority) we had to have a mandatory meeting that lasted until almost midnight (when it didn't have to) and then REQUIRE us to attend another meeting the next day. There are reasons behind the 9pm curfew, relating to the sorority, but I rather not get into that either. I thank y'all for your opinions, but I guess you have to be in my situation to actually realize that it a curfew isn't a bad thing....at least to me. I dont really go out to clubs, to party, and I rarely hang out with friends (most of my HS friends have moved away). I do know that my mom probably has some trust issues (even though she says she trusts me). At the parent social, ALL she heard about was mixers, socials, hanging out with fraternity guys, and tailgates....she wanted to know about community service and things like that, but the sorority really didn't talk about that, so that left a "bad taste" in her mouth. The 9pm curfew was mainly for the sorority, because she really didn't like the idea of me continuing. I know what she is doing, and if I really wanted to, I could fight her on it. But I really don't because i know it is in MY best interest. I don't pay my college bills, I don't pay my insurance, I don't pay my medical bills, thankfully my parents have been there to support me (and so what if i'm 20?) and I do willingly (most of the time) abide by their rules.
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i'm sorry for your dropping...
but i think i get it more than most because i get el paso. ultimately, you have got to stand on your own feet.
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Thank you mmcat! I guess y'all don't understand because you don't know where i come from. It IS really a cultural thing, mexican parents are A LOT stricter than white (or even black) families.
Again, I thank y'all for your comments and concerns, but I really DO know what i'm getting myself into and I know that although we are a tad dysfunctional, we in no way need any sort of family counseling, but really....thank you guys!