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Originally posted by ariesrising
I think my favourite part of dollar dance discussions are when people claim "that way the bride and groom get to dance with everyone" and "that way you can talk with everyone at your wedding".
Well...you can do that without having people give you money. Charging people money to dance with them...or dancing with the people you invited to your wedding because you actually want to see them....hmmmm....which one...which one...
I somewhat understand doing it for cultural reasons...but when you see some middle class white folks dancing around expecting money from their wedding guests...it's not about culture.
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Even for us middle class white folks, it's not about "dancing around expecting money from their wedding guests." It's not even about the money. Participating in the dollar dance is optional. I could have given two whits as to whether people gave any money, it was something fun and traditional that most guests at our wedding were expecting to do anyway.
And with over 300 guests, there was NO WAY I could have gone around and talked to them all personally. The dollar dance was a way that I did get to talk to some of them. (and yes, we knew when we chose to invite that many people we would not get to talk extensively with all of them. We were okay with that.)
Most of the weddings I've been to, you didn't dance with the bride or groom unless it was:
1. the dollar dance
2. you were the mother/father
3. you were the bride/groom
and half the time they were too busy talking, eating, socializing, making sure things were going okay to dance anyway.
Weddings are personal things. One person's preference may not be another's. That's fine. And as I said before, it doesn't bother me that people think it's tacky. It's when you start insinuating that having a dollar dance makes me greedy and a "five-cent whore" that I get bothered.