[kddani]

I'm really not trying to be mean, but you and mom both need to cut the apron strings. You're legally an adult, you're over 18, and if you don't start growing up now, when will you?

A curfew of 9pm for a grown woman (who is not a criminal!) is ridiculous. It's not like you're being disrespectful and coming home roaring drunk at 3am, knocking over furniture.

You may have classes that go past 9pm. You'll have study groups or group projects that have to meet at 9pm or later b/c that's when works for everyone's schedule. Many college jobs require working past 9pm. Hell, I worked until 3am some nights babysitting when I was 13.

I'm glad that you want to respect your mom, but this is time to live YOUR life. It's time to make your own mistakes and learn from them. You are going to miss out on SO much and think back and regret it. You can still be close with your family and live your own life and make your own choices and decisions. You can *gasp* even live away from home and still stay close. For many people they get closer when they move out.

You need to learn how to take care of yourself. Mom isn't going to be around forever.

I'm sure my mom doesn't like me being out late. My mom worries about me to. That's the virtue of being a parent. They'd love to keep us in a padded little cage so nothing ever hurts us physically or emotionally. But life doesn't work that way.

Maybe you guys need to see a family counselor of some sort to help you work out some of this and for both of you to realize that life changes when you go to college, etc.