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(1)I wrote a rec for a girl this year whose mother specifically asked me not to write her house's name on the section of the form that asks for family Greek affiliations. The girl's mother also asked her not to put this on the NPC registration form. Her mother believed that she might be cut by non-Jewish houses if they found out her mother was in a Jewish sorority, because her friends had said that this was protocol for many of the traditionally Christian houses at the school. Her mother told her to leave it off the form so that all options would be open to her. The girl ended up very happy in the house she pledged, but still preffed and considered joining her mom's sorority (without anyone knowing she was a legacy there).

While I can't imagine denying my letters, I can understand choosing to omit the legacy info so that all of the options remain open.

(2)I also wrote a rec for a girl this year who purposely did not list her sister's Greek affiliation on the information for her registration and sponsorship forms. Her sister's chapter is a smaller chapter at that school, so this girl decided to hide her sister's affiliation so people would not think of her in terms of that house. Her mother supported this choice.

I think this is dishonest. Whereas in the first situation, the mother had reason to believe that her daughter would only have a chance at other houses if the information was omitted, the girl in the second situation had no reason to believe that larger houses would cut her just because her older sister was in a smaller chapter. Plus, wouldn't friends of the older sister in the larger chapters recognize this dishonesty and possibly cut her for doing something so nasty as to pretend she didn't have a sister on campus?