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Originally posted by Jestor
Simply put, how do I do it? At the Sigma Chi party tonight, there were many attractive girls who I knew weren't dating any of the brothers who I would have liked to have talked to and danced with, gotten to know some.
Problem being, I stayed silent virtually the entire night and only talked with my new brothers and a few of their girlfriends.
Now I understand the theory behind dating and how to approach a girl, etc. In fact, in one of the world's greatest ironies, both guys and gals that are my friends usually come to *me* for relationship advice, even though it's been over two years since I was last in *any* kind of relationship, and I got burnt really bad on that one.
About six months ago, there was this girl I was interested in and an extremely common theme developed; the one where I become a close confidant and someone who's like their best friend, only in guy form.
I finally asked her out specifically on a date after hanging out with her one on one a few times. She freaked and things got really estranged between us then.
So I guess I'm wondering how exactly I take the theoretical principles I intuitively know and have learned over the years and translate them into actual, physical performance.
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Talk to them - be more aggressive than you're comfortable with (at least at first), but not overaggressive. Go up and talk to them, be relaxed, and if you're interested, make it apparent.
Now, this isn't the easiest thing to do for most guys; it certainly wasn't for me. I just got to the point where being subtle wasn't working, and I just went for it.