[gogoaphi]

I think you should really pick up a phone and talk to someone from your national organization (e.g. a regional team member, if you have one). They will likely be better equipped to advise you on your situation than anyone in Greekchat (without a whole lotta additional detail).

It kind of sounds like COR is relatively new to your chapter? I'm wondering about your "process" for making selection decisions. Every group likely has a different philosophy. I'm just getting the feeling that you are getting all twisted around the axle unncecssarily and then you find yourself in a sticky situation.

You may very well be a "safe" choice (if that's the right thing to call it) for some women. However, that isn't in and of itself all bad. Lots of great members can come from that. I think your chapter's specific situation, needs, strengths, and weaknesses play into it. So ... again ... ask for help from someone that understands your chapter a bit better.