[ASUADPi]

Okay I've read everything and here are my thoughts.

I think the advice (at the beginning of the thread) was right on the money, give the chapter a chance.

Although I am disheartened by her talk of "tiers" and "socials" and "fraternities". To me (again personal opinion) it sounded like the only reason she rushed was to get that "social standing" and go to frat parties. Then the talk of the chapter not being one of the "higher" tiered sororities really got to me.

My chapter of initiation recently closed. Prior to them closing I went down for homecoming and met my sisters. They were a wonderful group of girls. Some of them were drop dead gorgeous (at least to me) but b/c they were the struggling chapter they were considered "lower" and they were called "ugly". Were they, no. They understood the gossip, they didn't like it but dealt with it the best they could, with their heads held high. I say this because they were still proud to be ADPi's.

I tell this story because to me it sounds like she's really not proud at all to call this place home. She was (and might still be a little) hanging onto the "shoulda, coulda, woulda's" of not getting into the "top chapter" (in her mind).

I have to admit that I don't want to know what chapter she is in b/c if I found out she is one of my sisters, I would be slightly taken aback. I don't want someone to be an ADPi b/c they didn't get their top choice and they just wanna be greek, so their "settling". I'm pretty sure I can speak for other chapters when I say we don't want people to 'settle' for us.

I'm sorry if I sound mean or rude but that is really how I felt when I read this thread.

Don't get me wrong, I hope for the best for her. I hope she can work out her "issues" (so to speak) and give the chapter a chance. But if she can't I have to go back to my "settling" comment. No one should just "settle" because they are desperate to belong. No one will be happy in the long run.