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Originally posted by aephi alum
You couldn't just flush guys?
At my school, during fall fraternity rush, if a chapter wasn't going to extend a bid to a particular rushee, someone (usually the rush chair or president) would take him aside and say something like, "We don't think you'd fit in with our chapter." No excuses, no beating around the bush, just a straightforward statement.
This was as much for the rushee's good as the chapter's - with 25+ fraternities and only about 24 waking hours between the start of rush and the time fraternities could start offering bids, a rushee wouldn't want to waste his time at a fraternity he's not going to be invited to join.
The trouble with excuses is that sometimes they don't get through, whereas a straightforward statement usually does.
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We only did that on one occasion I can remember; it may have happened a couple of more times, but by and large the kid went entirely through rush and we made decisions at that time. However, I think it's a solid idea to let the kid know as early in the process as possible.
I think there's been tendancy on this board to be way too accomodating to rushees and PNM's. Not everyone is going to find a home, and that's the truth. Some schools have harsh recruitments. Not everyone will walk away from the process happy.
Personally, I think 99 times out of 100 you shouldn't re-rush the same org. I also think you need to assess the Greek system at your own school to see whether you should re-rush at all. If you're a junior or a senior, at some schools you're going to have a very tough time getting a bid; plain and simple, some orgs at some schools want to focus on underclassmen (and women). Again, it varies by school, but your chances as a junior or senior are much smaller than as a freshman or sophomore.