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Originally posted by lifesaver
When the members of the fraternity start giving you excuses like:
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Which is generally guy speak for "youre a tool and there was no way in hell you were going to get a bid, but we also dont even want you hanging around us because you'll scare off the girls."
If its a really wierd elaborate excuse about some 'process' that you werent even aware of, it didnt exist and we just dont want to be assholes and tell you directly it just wouldnt take.
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You couldn't just flush guys?
At my school, during fall fraternity rush, if a chapter wasn't going to extend a bid to a particular rushee, someone (usually the rush chair or president) would take him aside and say something like, "We don't think you'd fit in with our chapter." No excuses, no beating around the bush, just a straightforward statement.
This was as much for the rushee's good as the chapter's - with 25+ fraternities and only about 24 waking hours between the start of rush and the time fraternities could start offering bids, a rushee wouldn't want to waste his time at a fraternity he's not going to be invited to join.
The trouble with excuses is that sometimes they don't get through, whereas a straightforward statement usually does.