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Originally posted by 33girl
(My apologies in advance if this sounds condescending.)
I think that more and more, young people believe either you need to be the best at everything you do or you shouldn't even bother with it.
I mean, look at the traveling little league teams and things like that. It's like you can't play a sport anymore just for fun. You have to be hardcore in it or you're not wanted around. The same with band...I mean, my neighbor's kids do band and that's ALL they do.
That probably trickles down (up?) to things like sorority rush. Girls who have been super overachievers in HS figure if they can't be in the "top" sorority, there's no sense in being in one at all. And lots of times, their parents agree and promote this mindset, which I think is a terrible lesson to teach. You want the best for your child, but you have to tell them that sometimes yes, this is the best you're going to get.
I know a lot of this is because there are so many more people in this generation than say 10 or 20 years ago, therefore more competition, but where does it end? We can't have a whole society full of chiefs and no Indians.
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I agree completely.
I think it's far, far more stressful to be a kid now than it was even 10 or 20 years ago.
I've spent a lot of time looking through old Wisconsin yearbooks, and I'm constantly surprised at the number of sororities that stuck around for years, even decades, even though they were less than 1/2 the size of the largest sororities. That would never happen today -- partly because HQs wouldn't allow it, but also because I don't think there would be enough girls interested in smaller groups to keep that many of them afloat.