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Originally posted by honeychile
I have always been told that the concept of giving a wedding gift that equals the cost of one's dinner is a huge faux pas. However, in looking at Emily Post Institute online, she says otherwise:
"How much should I spend?
There is no rule, so it is entirely up to you. Let your affection for the bride and groom and your budget be your guide."
Just in case you were worried about it! 
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As usual, I think "Emily" is right.
As with the earlier thread about giving cash as a gift, the idea of spending the cost of one's plate at the reception is a new one on me that I heard here at GC. Perhaps it's another location thing. In the South -- at least in the part of the South where I'm from -- dinner receptions are rare. (The only people I know of who have had them are from families that moved here from elsewhere.) The "normal" reception around here is more the hors d'oeuvre style (heavy hors d'oeuvres for a midday or evening wedding).
Frankly, the real etiquette real faux pas would be for the bride and groom to give any consideration to how much someone spent on a gift for them.