[AlphaFrog]

dekeguy,

I believe that's why many GCers are asking her to elaborate and trying to cover all bases.

They want to know if this was a house that just wasn't her first choice, one that she could eventally fit in well, one that she wasn't comfortable in or one she "wouldn't touch with a 10 foot barge pole" as you put it.

Also, there are some schools (and from what everyone else is posting, I believe hers is one) that it's almost better for a woman to stay in a sorority that she's not 100% in love with, then not be in a sorority at all.

I think there's different levels of "Going Greek, just to be Greek". If you're doing it just to say you are and to wear around some neat letters, then I would say don't waste your money and a spot for a PNM that would be totally happy. If you're doing it for the networking aspect I would weigh heavily what field your in and if there's enough sisters (alum) with connections to make it worth it to you. If it's to have a family away from college (or, let's face it, to have drinking buddies), and you feel like eventually you could connect with the group you're in, even if you're not feeling it right now, then I would say to stick it out. I know the thought of someone "Going Greek, just to be Greek"(we need an anacronym for that on GC, GGjtbG maybe?) is not the best thought for us that are gung-ho about our org, but everyone goes Greek for a different reason.

So I guess the bottom line for this girl, as many have said, is she needs to decide why she wanted to go Greek in the first place.