[PenguinTrax]

I think you need to stop thinking of the 'what ifs' and start thinking about the 'now'. You did not get a bid to your first choice group. Neither did I - it happens to many of us. If you want to be Greek, you have your opportunity. You can either make the most of the experience or not, the choice is yours.

Three weeks is too soon to throw in the towel, IMO. I think you need to speak with your New Member Educator, Advisor or Big Sis and talk about your concerns.

As far as recs helping or not helping - if a sorority requires recs, they will find them for you. Having them in advance won't do much good for the second time rushing. The chapters already know you..and they will know that you pledged another group and left.