[ms_gwyn]

I am going to be as honest as I can.....

You need to get your head out of the clouds about your first choice...IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN, you are going to USC...even though you know that 1 person who got a second bid at whatever house.....what makes you think its going to happen to you?

You can not be close with every single person in your house, it would be great if you could, but again, slim to none. You need to focus on a few people who are you comfortable with, those ladies will be your core. You will still call all the ladies in the house your sisters, but these women will be your core group.

I need to ask you something...how much of an effort have you made to make friends, to find your niche?

Its been 3 weeks, I know NM periods are "short" but you need more time to really "feel it".

You can read my story somewhere on this board, but I will tell you this, the house that I got into was not my first choice, but as someone put it, it was my best choice, I threw myself into it, I thought I had a really close friend, but things changed really quickly, but I did find my core group and those ladies showed me what sisterhood is about and I will be grateful to them forever.

I know you know all the platitudes about how each house is great and unique and have some fantastic members. But I really think you have a case of the grass is always greener on the other side.

I know some women on 'SC campus right now who would give their eye-teeth to be where you are b/c they did not get a bid. You need to put things into perspective and be honored that you got a bid at all.


Do you want to be greek? Are you extremely miserable? Or are you still hung-up on your first choice? You need to answer these questions, because I know these ladies want you as their sister (they wouldn't have given you a bid if they didn't) but if you are still going look over your shoulder and wish for your first choice?

Get out now and stop these ladies from forming anymore attachment to you.