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Originally posted by adpiucf
Honestly, USC is a tough recruitment; I base this on my experience helping our chapter there with alumnae advising.
Bottom Line-- Membership selection and recruitment are a very emotional and trying time both for the chapters and the PNMs. How do sororities decide who they want to invite back? This is priviledged information unique to each chapter. No one on this board is at liberty to discuss.
Why are you so determined to get into this one group? Based on an impression of them at recruitment? Why are you so determined to leave the group who offered you a bid? Have you gone to any events? Made any effort to make friends?
Either stick with your current org or depledge and do not rush an NPC again. You might want to check out other options for Greek Life at the school, but it sounds to me as if you've put all your hopes in one basket for one NPC sorority in particular.
If you're insistent that your current sorority isn't for you, drop now and give them the opportunity to bid a member who wants to be there. Sorry if that sounds harsh. But if you're willing to throw in the towel after 3 weeks, you don't sound like you care anyway, and you're not the type of member that will be there for the long haul-- being in a women's group isn't always roses and teddy bears. Sometimes there are disagreements between chapter leaders and chapter members, or a member/group of members compromises the chapter in some way, or you just have a handful of people you don't like very much. That's normal and typical of any organization. Having 100 sisters does not equal having 100 friends.
Good luck with your decision.
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I couldn't have said it any better so I'm not going to even try and I'm just going to agree wholeheartedly.
And another thing, if you wanted this group so bad why didn't you get recs from the people you know in the first place (not that it would guaranteed anything)? Even if you didn't know you wanted that group, you should have gotten recs for them.
And I will reiterate, why would a sorority take you (who lacked commitment and depledged after 3 weeks) over a freshman?