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Part 4. Be conscientiously and methodically charming.
Ok now you are in a romantic relationship. Maybe you like her a lot, maybe you just like her enough to date her socially. Now its your mission to be as likeable and charming as possible.
Make sure that when you see her you sincerely compliment her appearance. Pay attention t changes in her hair and clothes.
Make sure you are flirty and funny, all the time. Plan events you know you both will like.
If you are in a bad mood and you are going to see her anyway, make sure you tell her up front whats wrong, that it has nothing to do with her and that you are glad that she is there because it makes you feel better.
Plan events every week that are actually dates. Just not hanging out. She's a girlfriend not a guy-pal.
Make sure there is plenty of foreplay. Don't always go for straight sex. Sex-play actually reinforces intimacy. Heavy petting in the morning before work is a great way to start the day. Try waking her up in the morning with oral sex (assuming she doesn't mind that stuff) it beats an alarm clock.
But the most important thing to remember is that you have to keep this behavior up all the time whether you have only been dating the girl for 6 days or 6 years.
A very few men do this intrinsically. In fact some of the men that are truly "players" fit this category, they have the knack of making women happy and keeping them happy. Most men are not like this.
How many times have we heard the lament of women saying how great their relationship was in the beginning months and then how the guy changed?
Thats not true, he just became who he truly was after his infatuation faded.
But our goal as guys is to have a maximum relationship. Which means you need act the way i have described even when you don't feel like it.
If acting like that doesn't come naturally to you except in the beginning of the relationship, and it doesn't for most men, make sure you start keeping track of these little romantic things.
You might even want to keep a journal that tracks how you are treating your SO. That way you can make sure you are daily paying her compliments. That you are taking her on interestig dates weekly. That you are engaging in daily sex-play.
Intimacy is not hard to keep, but virtually impossible to get back once its gone.
Basically you have to treat her like you are on your best behavior, like you are new to dating for as long as you are seeing her. Even if thats the rest of her life.
I see so many relationships where the man fails to do this stuff and romantic love soon fails leaving a strange bond based morely on comfort, security, and familiarity than any kind of grand passion.
In fact most relationships you will see are like that. Its like watching amovie where the male and female leads have no sexual tension even though they are supposed to be invovled.
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