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Originally posted by KSig RC
Look, it's fine and wonderful that you fine young ladies don't fit this particular mold and wouldn't 'fall' for this type of guy - guess what? You're not exactly a representative sample, nor would any of you describe yourselves as anything resembling the 'average' girl. Besides that, it's well and good to say that you'd prefer the bumbling-yet-honestly-nervous cat to the ultra-smooth one . . . but the issue is even working some men into the position to become the bumbler, and not just "that guy across the bar or down the hall."
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You know, I've been thinking about this "average girl" idea. This is really going off on a tangent, but I find it interesting.
What is the "average girl" -- is she someone who reads chick lit, watches Sex and the City, gossips over brunch with her girlfriends at a trendy restaurant, opting for salad instead of what she really wants so she can lose the extra five pounds she gained since college, who works and lives on her own but still hopes to find a man who wears suits and makes enough money to support her so she can stay at home with her babies and SUV stroller and afford a nanny to watch the kids while she goes out to get a manicure?
I'm sort of being facetious, but here's my thought -- if that is the average girl, or if the average girl is someone like her, I don't think that a guy who needs to follow James' advice to be "smooth" or "polished" is going to be (1) happy with her; or (2) the kind of guy she wants, even if he follows the advice given in this thread.
Anyway, back to the original point of the post -- are there really guys out there who are so terrified of women? Thinking back, I've known one guy who might qualify -- he was the kind of guy I hung out with for a minute and he'd say stuff like "You're so wonderful" or "You're so beautiful" and follow it with "Why are you hanging out with me?" Yeah, at that point I was like, I don't know homes, see ya, um, never again, hopefully.