*inhale* (exhale). Repeat!
I think you handled the situation with Phoebe well. As long as you weren't saying "OMG those's VBTs are just the worst girls who would ever want to be their sister yakyakyakyak..." You'll be fine. It sounds like you've got the right perspective on the situation...it wasn't right for YOU ...doesn't mean it isn't right for OTHERS. Very Panhellenic
