Thanks for all the input.
I already know the commute would kill me long-term. It's 2+ hours each way on commuter rail and subway. I love my current house, but with 8+ hours at work and 4+ hours commuting, I'd never be able to appreciate my limited time at home.
Renting is an interesting idea, except for the small fact that my new job is in NYC, and we'd be better off financially buying a house closer to NYC rather than renting a place there (= $$$) and continuing to pay mortgage on our current house. Mortgage interest is tax deductible, rent is not. Plus, I'd miss my husband all week.
Anyway, we've expanded our search to an area a little farther north of NYC, and we have some promising leads. Maybe I can still have a nice-sized house without having a long commute or being po'.
Still having trouble with the stress, though. I can't leave my house without looking at that big ol' for-sale sign, and I still haven't seen a house I actually want to buy.
