[Sistermadly]

The reality is, the more traditional the campus, the less likely an upperclassman will receive a bid. I'm not saying it to be mean, I'm saying it to prepare you.

Alumnae initiation may be an option you wish to investigate, but it is still a mutual selection process. It isn't something you 'fall back on' because seeking undergraduate membership didn't work out for you.

And as someone pointed out earlier, you once called NPC sororities "white" sororities - do you still think of them that way? If you do, you need to ask yourself some serious questions about whether that is going to be an issue for you. If you're still thinking of it as a "white" sorority, can you still look those women in the eye and call them your sister?

If you do decide to seek membership on your campus or at the alumnae level, I wish you luck. But if it doesn't pan out, see if you can find other organizations that you can devote your time to, and make friendships that will last a lifetime.