i had many of the same thoughts that you have about greek life before i attended college. my school, furman, also had deferred recruitment like osu. when i got to school i realized greek life wasn't at all like hazing and complete partying like i thought it was. i realized i really wanted to be in a sorority. i went from complete anti-greek before college to loving being in a sorority. i hope that advice helpsi do know an interesting fact about ohio state. patricia heaton of everybody love raymond was a dg there! sorry, that's all i know
good luck!