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It was really hard on me when I found out my friend Shannon killed himself. Luckily, we had an awesome group of friends to help.
I was going to school out of state and home for thanksgiving. To complicate matters, he wasn't just a friend, he was one of my best friends boyfriends.
We all met up at someone's house and for three days pretty much just talked about him a lot and really supported each other. If I didn't have them in the beginning, it would have been much worse.
You will have days that you are so angry you won't know what to do. That's ok. As long as you explore your emotions and accept that they will be changing for quite some time, you will be fine.
Talk about him when you feel you need to. Don't worry about "annoying" other people by bringing it up. ITs a tough spot, you need to have outlets (whether it is verbal or physical exercise or something different) to help you cope.
One day, you will wake up and it won't hurt as much. I know it sounds corny and you don't think so now, but it will happen.
The next hardest thing will be the year anniversary of their death. My suggestion is to make plans with someone who knew them so that if need be, you can "mourn" again.
I hope this helps and wish you strength and support.
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