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Gmu, I know what you're saying, but that kinda gets to me the way that we're supposed to fear God does. I think the person you're in love with you should feel you deserve every atomic particle that forms her/him, because you're accepting that (as said in Good Will Hunting) they're not perfect, but they're perfect for you.
Curious, I've many expansive theories on love, ask newbie or my friends from here, in fact I wrote a 120 or so page book to this girl whom, well...., I can't really go into here while I'm at work, otherwise I'd get even less accomplished. But I'll give a synopsis of my theories.
Love is an entity that can be broken down into two forms, more simplistic than yours, these forms are simply, Love, and In Love. Love has degradations, whereinwhich you can love someone more than another, and this love incorporates the love and affinity one has for their family, as well as best-friends. Love is more than a feeling, I think that love is almost a character trait in some people, but for most love is simply a response to interaction and personal relationships. In this form of love, one would do anything for the person that they love, deprive themselves of anything for the betterment of the companion, and it is this love that is based on trust and liking. This love can be lost and broken when deeply betrayed and is not an eternal love. This love is very powerful and typically unbreakable, but not also neccesarily so. Love changes the way you act, to accomodate that person. Often, this is the love that someone might say, "I don't deserve you."
'In Love' transcends all bounds of love, and does so to such a degree that one is completely aware of everything he/she wants and desires. This is the love that those desires do not even involve the 'in love' person themselves, it's solely for the other person. When someone is 'In Love' they can do nothing about it, and can only hope that the other person will accept that they are in love. This is the love where, as the prophet Kahlil Gibran says, "you must fill each others cup, but drink not from the same cup." 'In Love' is eternal, and cannot be dismantled even by death, as it is based on the realization that the two involved are perfect for one another, and that their souls are intertwined, hearts both beating the same notes. 'In Love' allows you to no longer change the way you act, but shine bright as yourself. 'In Love' is the enlightened state of being within the realm of the greatest order, which is, generally speaking, love itself.
My thoughts are flowing poorly right now, typing and discussing are, believe me, two horribly different things, but let me say this to compare it to the topic at hand. I've a board, on which is written something similar to the following:
In my Study of Zen
I looked to the mountains
and saw that they were mountains
Further into my studies
I no longer saw mountains
However, upon enlightenment
I looked to the mountains
and saw that they were mountains
I kind-of see parallels between that and being yourself, to 'love' to 'in love,' but that somewhat outlines my general, very simplisitic theories though...
Cory
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