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Originally posted by bgsugirlie
I've been dating a bartender. He's great. He's cute. He keeps me on my toes. He's romantic. He treats me well. We get along wondefully.
BUT...he never went to college. He also never intends on going to school. I'm not quite sure how long he plans on keeping his bartending job.
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Oh, wow...that could be me!
My boyfriend is a bartender/musician who went to college for a while but hated every minute of it so he left after a couple years. Meanwhile, I'm working on my Master's degree because I plan to become a teacher and I have always loved school and learning. It seems like we're just a disaster waiting to happen, but you know what? I get along better with him than I have with anyone else I've ever dated, with the possible exception of one person, and the fact that he doesn't have a college degree doesn't really bother me that much. I never really even thought about it until one of my friends made the rather rude comment that I shouldn't "settle," because basically I "deserve better" than to be with someone who wasn't motivated enough to finish college. After my friend said that, I started to really think about it and I came to the conclusion that people are interested in different things, and I'm glad that we are a little different because things don't get boring. He understands that school is important to me and thinks it's great that I'm happy with what I'm doing, but the whole college thing (or just school in general) wasn't for him. It isn't that he doesn't see the value of it, he would just rather be doing other things himself. He is very passionate about his music, which is something I'm not all that into but I respect that and I'm glad that he has something he's interested in. So my point is, having a college degree isn't the be-all, end-all...and as far as marriage goes, don't you want to be able to support yourself anyway without having to rely on a man to do it? (Now it's one thing if you have to support yourself
and his sorry azz if he won't get out and work or something, but that's not what I'm talking about here.) Most bartenders I know do OK anyway; my boyfriend owns a house, and does way better than I ever did while I was working retail. So I would say don't worry about it until you have a reason to...who knows, maybe he wants to go into management or something later on.