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Although I'm not as big as the woman in the article, weight's a battle for me too. The things that have been the most helpful have been concrete suggestions about how to change behavior, and positive feedback for even small improvements. It can also be good to set modest goals. The idea of losing 80-100 pounds might have been overwhelming to the woman, but starting with 5 could have been more attainable. Feeling shamed or rejected can backfire, because it can make it harder to get out and be active. Some of the women I exercise with are smaller than me, but they're very supportive, so it's still a good experience. What guys think seems like a non-issue - do I really want an SO who'll love me only if I look a certain way?
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