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My heart is breaking for you and your friends and I hope you will be ok. Here is some advice and most of it I have taken and can relate to your situation.
1) Try to be as good to yourself as possible. I know that is easier said than done.
2) Give counseling a chance. Very little progress can be made in only a few sessions. Some people will tell you that after a year they finally begun to sink into therapy.
3) You say your fraternity brothers aren't really helping. I am so sorry to hear that but is there another friend of yours you can lean on? Sometimes it only takes one or two really great friends to get you through a crisis. If not, can you look elsewhere for "better" friends? I don't want to come off cruel with that statement but if your fraternity brothers aren't there for you the way you need them to be, can you look elsewhere?
4) This has helped me a lot. I volunteer and it makes me feel so much better. When my dad was overseas in a war I was beside myself and I volunteered with a military non profit organization. Can you work a hotline for suicide prevention? That might really help you work through this.
5) TRY HARD TO NOT LET YOUR GRADES SLIP. This is the time for you to drop classes if you have to. Talk to your teachers and tell them what is going on.
6) Try being a incredible friend to your current friends. I know you probably are but talk to them. Maybe they are considering suicide. You never know. Sometimes it only takes one conversation, one hug, one wave to change a person's mind. Maybe you will be that one friend who prevented another, God forbid, unnecessary death.
Please hang in there. Seriously, please let us know how you are doing. Please get help if you need it. Please give therapy a longer shot to do you some good. Change therapists if you need to. Please be good to yourself and please talk to your teachers.
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