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Definitely attend Doug's pref party and keep an open mind. I didn't really know that I wanted to join Alpha Chi until pref night. My campus has 3 Panhellenic chapters, and there have been many girls who didn't match at their first choice (or even second choice for that matter) who have ended up loving their experience at that chapter. My chapter advisor told me she isn't in her bid day pictures because she was in the other room crying because she didn't get her first choice. Now she wouldn't change her affiliation for the world. There are women who end up with their first choice and resign because they weren't honest with themselves and the fit wasn't right.
Things--good or bad-- happen for a reason. Continue to be open-minded tonight at your pref ceremony. Be honest with yourself. Are these the women you could sit up with at 3am because something bad happened? Are these the women you could pour your soul to? Are these the women you could hang out with, without the glitz and glamour of recruitment, while in your pajamas, eating popcorn, and watching tv? Do you feel like you can be yourself there? If you think the answer might be yes, then maybe you should consider giving Doug a shot. Being a sister isn't just during recruitment, or at meetings, or in ritual. You will be a sister to these women for the rest of your life. If you campus has houses, these are the women you will most likely live with. Attending recruitment parties won't make the women in these chapters your best friends. The new member period will be the time to really get to know the sisters. You could think of this as a sort of test-drive... There are always pluses and minuses. If it feels like a good fit, and you are willing to try, you may grow to love it.
Good luck tonight!
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