I think it is purrfectly healthy to discuss the otherside of life. Like Stillwater, I don't want any crying and lamenting mourners acting out! As a matter of fact there better be a serious party happening. I too wish to be cremated. All of my "good parts" can be donated. I don't need them anymore. All of my closest friends know the deal. I want a production...a band, the whole nine yards...maybe a festival of sorts...jugglers, face painting...all of that stuff that makes you smile. My remains can be strewn across the ocean or mixed with the earth to start a garden somewhere in PA and NYC.