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Originally posted by christiangirl
*I'm putting this in a separate reply b/c this isn't something I've seen in this thread, it's something else I want to discuss. I'm really upset about something that happened a few days ago and need to vent.*
I also think that people assume that most Christians are putting themselves on a pedastal, but really they are the ones who put us there. Isn't assuming that I am judgemental passing a judgement on me? I have heard countless times that people didn't tell me they're having sex b/c "you'd just judge me for it." I don't get invited out with my friends, because since I don't drink, they "just know you'll be in our faces about drinking." Just because I'm God's child doesn't make me Jesus. Christians (especially virgins) are HUMAN--I'm in college, if I had a dime for every time I've wanted to do something I shouldn't, I could pay off my student loans. I think when people are disappointed in their own behavior, they assume others are as well (especially those who supposedly live by a higher standard) and end up lashing out at that person for having feelings when they never did. They protect themselves from what they think my reaction will be. And I resent that people's faith in my impartialness suffers because they feel bad about what they did. If I'm your friend, then I'll love you no matter what you did. A judgement and an opinion are 2 different things. I may not like what you did and believe you need to turn from it, but I'm not gonna beat you over the head with a Bible, and if you think I am, then don't try to punish me before I get even get that far. I hate having to find out that all my friends went out without me or that I missed out on some great girl talks because they assumed I'd react a certain way and tried to keep me from doing something that I'd have never done in the first place. This isn't always, but it happens too much for me not to be annoyed.
I know I didn't get around to the thread topic, but I needed that one. I'll post something that actually makes sense later, thanx for the air space.
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XO_Kathy said a lot of what I wanted to say, but I'll say it again anyway.
I think in some instances, you may be right. People may be ashamed of what they have done and therefore will not share it with you, and say that you're being judgemental. However, I also think that you're making too great a generalization.
I have very fundamentalist Southern Baptist relatives. I don't tell them that I drink, or smoke, or have premarital sex. Not because I am ashamed of my activities, but because I do not have the patience or the energy to to deal with their comments and their judgements (and eys they will judge me, because they have done it before). I love my relatives, but I do not worship the same way they do, and I would greatly appreciate it if they would respect that, but they do not. I do not have to justify my actions to them or to anyone else. When the time comes, God, who whatever higher being there may be, will do all the judging.