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AGDee-
I am not trying to make you or other divorcees defensive or offend you, but I am sure this will.
Someone said premarital sex can be avoided, and it can, but so can divorce, or at least you can do all you can to avoid it.
Not rushing into marriage, getting premarital counseling and pretty much spending more than a year or so with one person is one way to start ( and I am by NO means saying you or anyone else DIDN'T do any of this). And yes, if one person wants to get divorced the other has no control, however, again, i think if you REALLY know the person before you marry you shouldn't have to worry about them backing out 2-3 years down the road. By then you will have discussed the scenarios and have the trust in place to discuss ANYTHING no matter how difficult.
But there is a vow taken before GOD and that is not to be taken lightly... I believe that is usually said in the service.
Now, I am also strange in that personally I think a marriage done in a church and a marriage done at the JOP or wherever else aren't the same. Legally, yes, but you didn't take the vows before God.
Thats the thing though- I had a chapter sister that married a guy that she knew for three months. They had two kids and ended up divorced (he mentally abused the hell out of her). Then she moved home, met some guy, married him had ANOTHER kid and divorced. But whenever she sees me with a guy that I am dating she wants to lecture me on how I am sinning. EXCUSE ME? She isn't the only one. Living in Kentucky I am constantly reminded that I am a sinner. Yes, I realize my choices sometimes lead me towards sin, but just because she got married before she screwed him doesn't make her better than me.
Maybe that is what bugs me.... but then again maybe I just wish people would mind their own damn business.
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