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Originally posted by OtterXO
I was also taught that it's not my place to judge others for their actions that may be sins. (I think that's God's job...right?) So I don't think people should judge you for your choice to have sex and you shouldn't judge others if divorce is right for them. I think both of these subjects are highly personal decisions. Further, I don't remember reading anything in the bible that allows and encourages Christians to judge others. I think that judging people is probably actually contrary to what the bible says. Just my two cents. 
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for all of you who say that premarital sex is not a sin, well IT IS. It can be considered lust, but iin the bible, its mainly talked about as
sexual immorality and that is a sin.
But onto my thoughts on this. I have to agree with OtterXO. I have learned not to judge others. I think though that having a divorce and having premarital sex are two different things. One can be avoided while the other MAY NOT be avoided.
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God understands that we are human and make mistakes. I don't think God expects us to remain in situations that are unhealthy for us. He doesn't expect an abused woman to wait until death (by the hand of her husband), etc. Not only that but, the reality here is, You have no control over whether your spouse divorces you. None, zip, zero, nada. Your spouse can divorce you if they want to. You don't have to agree to it. You can fight about property and stuff, but if they want a divorce, they will get a divorce. You have no control over that.
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I think this is a good way to look at it. Yes, you stand before God saying that you will love this person forever....and at THAT TIME you really mean it. I think God does understand if you get divorced, UNLESS its for an adulterous type reason (like you want to be with some other lady/guy). Like AGDee said, if your spouse wants a divorce, you really have no control over it. Sometimes once you get married you then realize that the relationship is unhealthy.
But Premarital sex can be avoided--by just not doing it. Its as simple as that. I do believe that sex is something that you should be saved for the guy/girl who you truly believe is "the one." But i'm not here to say you SHOULD do this or you SHOULDN'T do that..ya know? Its eventually your decision.
Just because you have premarital sex (over and over..lol) or you have a divorce, doesn't condemn you to hell. God is forgiving, all you have to do is ask for forgiveness.
Ugh...hopefully i didnt go on too many tangents, so hopefully i made sense!