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What you're really angry with is hypocrisy and, I agree that hypocrisy is not right. I try to live by the addage "Judge not, lest ye be judged". I have always been taught and believed that God is a forgiving, merciful, loving God who understands that we are weak and that we make mistakes.
Ok, so I'm feeling defensive too because I'm divorced twice and I struggled with that and with God and prayed a lot before ending up divorced. And, came to the same conclusion... God understands that we are human and make mistakes. I don't think God expects us to remain in situations that are unhealthy for us. He doesn't expect an abused woman to wait until death (by the hand of her husband), etc. Not only that but, the reality here is, You have no control over whether your spouse divorces you. None, zip, zero, nada. Your spouse can divorce you if they want to. You don't have to agree to it. You can fight about property and stuff, but if they want a divorce, they will get a divorce. You have no control over that.
But, your question reminded me of a talk that my ex-husband had with his Pastor about marriage and divorce:
Ex: What happens if I meet someone that I want to marry?
Pastor: You will be living in sin if you marry someone else because you married already and only one marriage is recognized by God.
Ex: But, it was my ex-wife's second marriage when she married me, does that mean our marriage wasn't recognized by God because it would have been her FIRST marriage that was recognized.
Pastor: No.
Ex: Why not?
Paster: uhhhh, errr.. it's just not that way.
Truth is, none of us know for sure what God is thinking about our actions for sure at any given time. Sure he says "Thou Shalt Not Steal", but if you had no food for your baby and stole some to ensure that the baby wouldn't starve, would he really see that as wrong? We don't know. There are no absolutes. Life is a big huge grey area and we can only do the best we can at the time, with the abilities we have at the time. I think God knows that.
Dee
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