That's true, but was he ever acting like your female friend? Was he ever that intense? Even if he was, if you could've helped his suffering end faster, you would have. You've already got enough advice from us (you know we're happy to butt-in
). You know this girl very well and you know you are one of the key people who can either help or hinder her progress. What you do is up to you. Hope we helped at all.