[KSUViolet06]

Originally posted by lilsunshine214


*If a friend of yours goes through recruitment, don't dote over them. At the same time, ignoring that friend completely may make them feel unwanted and insecure.

*Rushers, if you do happen to have a friend going through, be sure you explain the SILENCE/CONTACT RULES to her if she doesn't already know. That way she won't be freaked out or upset when you change the subject when she starts talking about rush. And make sure she understands that you two can't be hanging out at each other's homes, etc during rush, so she's not offended when you decline her offer to go study together or something like that.

*On the topic of friends again: Make sure they know that being your friend (or anyone elses) DOES NOT GUARANTEE THEM A BID from your chapter (or any other). Do not in any way imply this at all (i.e. "OMG you're a shoe-in for my chapter!" or "They love you because I do."). We ALL know how some comments can be misinterpreted.

*Might sound like common sense, but DO NOT PRESSURE FRIENDS TO JOIN YOUR CHAPTER. Let them know that this is about personal choices and that they don't have to join your chapter and that you would understand if they did not. In some situations, the pressure for a good friend of an XYZ can be akin to that of a legacy. She might feel like you wouldn't be friends anymore if you didn't end up sisters. Reassure her that this is not true.

**Man I am FULL of tips lately**